The Decorum Standard

How you’re read before you speak

Twelve of twelve

The Rooms

Twelve rooms.

Every room decides something, and every room is reading a slightly different thing. A board wants to know if you’re credible. A funeral wants to know if you can hold still. A golf course wants four hours of you with nothing to hide behind.

These are the twelve most men will actually stand in. Pick the one you’re walking into.

The Twelve

Each links to the guide until its own page is built

  1. 01

    The Board Presentation

    A room where people who don’t know you decide whether you’re credible, and they decide it in about eleven minutes.

  2. 02

    The Job Interview

    A room where they mostly decide whether they like you inside four minutes and then spend fifty-six looking for evidence.

  3. 03

    The First Day

    The only day where everyone is watching you and nobody expects anything from you yet. Spend it well.

  4. 04

    The Client Dinner

    A sales meeting where nobody will say the word sale.

  5. 05

    The Negotiation

    A room where whoever is more comfortable with silence usually wins.

  6. 06

    The Video Call

    The room you’re in most often, and the only one where you control every single variable. Most men control none of them.

  7. 07

    The Industry Conference

    Three days of being read by people who decide in ten seconds whether to keep talking to you.

  8. 08

    The Wedding

    Somebody else’s day. Every decision follows from that one sentence.

  9. 09

    The Funeral

    A room where nothing you do will be remembered, except your absence.

  10. 10

    The Golf Outing

    Four unstructured hours with somebody who is going to decide something about you, whether either of you says so.

  11. 11

    The Holiday Party

    A work event dressed as a social event. It is still a work event.

  12. 12

    The Hospital Visit

    A room where you are a guest in the worst week of somebody’s life.

The guide

Every room in full, with drawings.

The Room Read, free